I had a similar realization when I was talking to a relative about something hard at work that was taking a lot of my time, and they told me kindly to "do my best". The problem is, my "best" has historically been giving it my all, in sprint fashion - no sleep, no healthy food, no yoga. It's taken a lot over the years to reframe my thinking. First I realized I was going to burn out if I kept going like that (thus my "all" wouldn't be much), but then I realized even that wasn't great. Why was I valuing myself for my productivity? Why couldn't I give myself sleep, healthy food, and yoga just because I like it? Why don't I feel like I deserve that?
Oh my, I've been asking myself the same questions for so long! I remember how I first started working remotely 7 years ago, and on the first day I literally forgot to eat both breakfast and lunch! Or maybe I remembered, but thought I need to prove myself worthy first. I've come a long way since then.
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I had a similar realization when I was talking to a relative about something hard at work that was taking a lot of my time, and they told me kindly to "do my best". The problem is, my "best" has historically been giving it my all, in sprint fashion - no sleep, no healthy food, no yoga. It's taken a lot over the years to reframe my thinking. First I realized I was going to burn out if I kept going like that (thus my "all" wouldn't be much), but then I realized even that wasn't great. Why was I valuing myself for my productivity? Why couldn't I give myself sleep, healthy food, and yoga just because I like it? Why don't I feel like I deserve that?
Oh my, I've been asking myself the same questions for so long! I remember how I first started working remotely 7 years ago, and on the first day I literally forgot to eat both breakfast and lunch! Or maybe I remembered, but thought I need to prove myself worthy first. I've come a long way since then.