The older I get, the less desire I have to experiment. When going for a coffee, I always choose a coconut cappuccino in my favorite coffee chain. When eating out it’s usually one of the same 5 restaurants, and at each of them I often choose the same dish as the last time. I go to the same yoga studio since 2018 and always bump into the same people in class. After many years of searching I finally found one hairdresser that I visit regularly, who does my hair exactly the same way every time.
I am definitely yearning for a deeper sense of belonging and connection to the community around me, now that I’ve moved back to London after a year of nomadic travels. I won’t give up entirely on novelty but I certainly won’t make a point of seeking it.
Enjoyed reading this. I have noticed similar changes in myself happen in my mid 30s. I am now living in what my 20-something self would have considered to be an unbearably mundane life, but I’m loving it and could never imagine wanting to go back to my 20s. Funny how that perspective change works!
This is a great presentation of wisdom- a new and deeper understanding about whats important. Shifting the vision of the good life from one of novelty, variety and optionality to one of belonging, more textured relationships, and hominess.
Great piece!
I am definitely yearning for a deeper sense of belonging and connection to the community around me, now that I’ve moved back to London after a year of nomadic travels. I won’t give up entirely on novelty but I certainly won’t make a point of seeking it.
Something I've wondered is if parents get enough novelty and challenge from raising a kid
You don't really need to go chasing novelty when your child is constantly learning and growing (and also constantly sick)
Enjoyed reading this. I have noticed similar changes in myself happen in my mid 30s. I am now living in what my 20-something self would have considered to be an unbearably mundane life, but I’m loving it and could never imagine wanting to go back to my 20s. Funny how that perspective change works!
This is a great presentation of wisdom- a new and deeper understanding about whats important. Shifting the vision of the good life from one of novelty, variety and optionality to one of belonging, more textured relationships, and hominess.