Learning to define my boundaries has been a big learning for me these past few months. I realized I over-explained my "no"s as a defensive tactic in order to avoid being disliked/abandoned. Things have gotten better once I discovered that healthy people will easily accept a simple "no" at face-value.
This was an interesting idea about how it takes time to internalize you're not in danger, and a thought-provoking linked post on Seth's Blog: https://seths.blog/2017/06/the-right-effort-of-generosity
Thank you! I think about this short essay at least once a week.
Learning to define my boundaries has been a big learning for me these past few months. I realized I over-explained my "no"s as a defensive tactic in order to avoid being disliked/abandoned. Things have gotten better once I discovered that healthy people will easily accept a simple "no" at face-value.