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Welcome back! Thank you for sharing this.

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Thank you Rick! I hate to admit this, but I wouldn't probably be writing now if it wasn't for an extended Twitter break 😅

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well then, thank goodness for it!

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thank you for writing like 1 step away from where I'm at. I feel like most people either disregard/diminish the pain, or focus on it and get bitter.

"nothing about this whole situation was really about me" - this is the hardest thing to swallow and I'm not sure I agree with all that that entails (but I would probably be happier if I did).

but it doesn't sound like something you *agree with*, it sounds like something you experience, for a moment, and it eventually becomes part of you. power to you, that's profound!

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Thank you Dan, I'm not sure if I intellectually agree with all that statement entails either! There were way too many women around me growing up who completely neglected their own needs and grew bitter and resentful in the old age.

What I prefer to see it as is just one of many perspectives I can embody depending on the situation, so that with enough practice it becomes a part of me to enough extend that I can do it at will. This would certainly come in handy while giving birth in a few weeks!

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yeah! sounds right to me.

all the best for your upcoming birth! that does sound like a really concentrated experience of all of this post (it's Actually Hard, it's always been Actually Hard and used to be harder, "it's not about you" may be a helpful perspective). hope it is as easy and uncomplicated as possible!

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