I’ve only first met a happily married couple when I was 20. They were both still in college which made them even more of an anomaly, none of my college friends seriously considered marriage at this time. They talked about each other with love and admiration, but also openly spoke about their disagreements and all the things they were doing to address them. They seemed both fully committed to working on the same team forever, and to always making their family function better and better.
Definitely some good feedback here. I would say this goes double for relationship advice from the internet though, unfortunately.
When you can't see someone's relationship in real life it becomes far too easy to overvalue their perspective, and project a perfect relationship onto them. It's a tough project when you don't know anyone around you that does have a truly happy relationship.
Love this
It's amazing writing, thank you for this post!
If you feel like writing about that I'd be very interested in how you deal with the "1% not screwing it up" cases.
It's rare to see how other couples interact when things get rough, so it always seems difficult to really learn about that from the outside.
Definitely some good feedback here. I would say this goes double for relationship advice from the internet though, unfortunately.
When you can't see someone's relationship in real life it becomes far too easy to overvalue their perspective, and project a perfect relationship onto them. It's a tough project when you don't know anyone around you that does have a truly happy relationship.